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*Trigger Warning

In this episode, we talk about childhood trauma, verbal abuse, PTSD, and eating disorders which may be alarming to some listeners. Please use discretion, take care of yourself, and if you need to, don’t be afraid to reach out and ask someone close to you for help.


In This Episode:

  • What is “Being Seen” like?
  • The ability to heal from trauma
  • Having grace for one another
  • How coming to therapy is courageous
  • Rewriting the negative story you’ve been telling yourself
  • Developing trust with your therapist
  • What happens when you take yourself out of the story as a copy mechanism
  • Knowing how to ask for help
  • How negative self-beliefs develop
  • Not being numb
  • What she “gets” from doing therapy
  • Being an advocate for yourself
  • The fear of being seen when losing weight
  • Loving yourself at all stages of life
  • Hashimoto’s
  • Your relationship with food

Quotations From This Episode:

“We do have the ability to heal from trauma and change.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“I was very good at making everyone think I was more productive than I was.” ~JennyQ

“All of us have experienced trauma to one degree or another in our childhoods.” ~JennyQ

“It’s not about blame. It’s about understanding to heal.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“You have to get through the pain first, and it isn’t easy.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“In the absence of someone being there who can explain what’s going on, children will often write their own story–and it’s often a negative one of themselves.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“When you tell a painful story, and you’re seen, and it’s met with empathy that mirrors your inner reality, that helps regulate the fear and anxiety.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“Sometimes we have to say, ‘Maybe the story I’ve been telling myself about my worth and experiences isn’t accurate.’” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“I like deep, meaningful relationships.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“I consider it a privilege to sit in that space with someone when they decide they are ready to be seen.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“I believe in the power of healing and change.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT

“Love yourself at all stages of life.” ~Susan Barnes, MA, LCPC, LMFT


Susan received her Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and Art Therapy in 2004 from Notre Dame de Namur University in Belmont, California. She is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and registered supervisor in the State of Idaho. She has advanced training in working with trauma and is an EMDRIA Certified Therapist in EMDR. Susan has been in private practice for 13 years and although she specializes in trauma work she has general practice providing counseling for a variety of problems including depression and anxiety, women’s issues, grief and loss, and life adjustments.